I am living with a cyber bully and I always will. The legal system has given us sanctions against this person but the passive aggressive behavior still exists. Of course, the cyber bully takes the low road and is labeled a coward as physical access is not needed to do unimaginable harm. It is much easier to hide behind a computer screen than to face us in person. It is easier to make up stories and exaggerate details in attempt to defame and slander. It is a pattern of physical, mental, and emotional abuse. Even in light of legal intervention, the cowardly cyber bully still attempts to inflict social media harm in a unintelligent and emotionally imbalanced manner. One important aspect that I have learned about our cyber bully is that the harm is inflicted because we are perceived to be weak, damaged, useless, undesirable. In reality, it is the cyber bully that is trying to hide such characteristics and as long as we remain passive and compliant, it is perceived that we are a target. I have realized that the bullying has nothing to do with me, it is all about the bully; insecure and weak. The bully has been confronted, documented, reported, witnessed, the trail is long of the bully's inappropriate behavior. We have obtained police reports, consulted with counselors, and hired an attorney. We have fought in court and have been granted important sanctions. It is important to stand up against the bully and it does not have to be alone. Movement forward into strict consequences and public awareness will have made my experience open to those who also suffer.
One important characteristic that I have noted of our cyber bully and I have heard the same from others in similar situation is that there is no movement forward for the cyber bully. They stay mired in the yuck and muck of where they started. Regression is common. For my family, it has given great strides into future endeavors and we have had a great support system in family, friends and even strangers who have come forward to aid, information, and gained insight from our experience. Intimidation is considered comedy and threats are forwarded to legal authorities. From my experience has come blessings, a great desire to succeed, and ambition to defend the rights of others who have experienced such.
Today was the first day of December. Today we enjoyed a beautiful snowfall. Tonight we are enjoying an almost-full moon and the twinkling of Christmas lights. The first day to be the "light of the world" and not the dark of evil and despair. I am loving movement forward. I am loving the strength in resilience and perseverance. The light of the world.