Our bully is a coward. She is not capable of fighting fair. Her way to battle is behind a computer screen and to threaten with thugs and other bullies to commit crime of physical harm and death. She is a stalker, a thief, and unable to take care of her own life. Should I feel sorry for her .. Maybe?! Should I allow her behavior to affect my life and the life of those I love .. No way!!
A bully's behavior is profoundly different from our typical forms of interactions. Sometimes it may be difficult to determine the difference. Bullying implies an imbalance of power. The bully perceives to be better, stronger, socially able, and higher on the social ladder. It is thought that bullying could be normal behavior, a rite of passage, so to speak. Unfortunately, there is clear intent to cause harm; physical and emotional harm. They expect it to hurt and take pleasure from it. Our bully clearly states her pleasure of inflicting pain in court documents secluded in evidence. It is her will to purposely impose her intent time and time again. Maybe her thought is that I need to be "toughened up", my life sins clearly posted for all to see, attempting to build my character for the realities of life. This is a tad bit one-sided as she does not post her life sins in comparison making herself out to be a saint, a licensed minister and writing a bible of her own rules and regulations to justify her bad behavior. There is no apology in this world that can erase the harm that has been done; she can't even obey the terms of a court order, sought after, and won.
Today, she has no power over me. I do not care what is written on walls, gossiped about, and lies spread. The truth is known and it is all that she is able to do with her life. My world has become secluded, limited to family and our animals. Our home is inviting and comfortable. I enjoy my hobbies, competitions, writing, and road trips. When priorities change, so does life. Today, my time is filled with family, college classes, and legislation. Soon, there will be stricter laws to punish those persons filling lives with fear and slander. This has become my life's work. Despite mistakes that I have made in my past, the future is bright ..
Following please find great resources in dealing with bullies. As always, please contact me if you are in need of advice or assistance in your experience with a bully. Take the pledge and let us abolish bullying!
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS
The Berenstain Bears & the Bully by Stan & Jan Berenstain (ages 4–8)
Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain (grades 3–8)
Cliques, Phonies & Other Baloney by Trevor Romain (ages 9–12)
How to Handle Bullies, Teasers & Other Meanies by Kate Cohen-Posey (grades 6–10)
Nobody Knew What to Do: A Story About Bullying by Becky Ray McCain (grades K–3)
Secret of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman (all ages)
Stick Up For Yourself! Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem by Gershen Kaufman & Lev Raphael (grades 3–7)
Why Is Everybody Always Picking on Me? by Terrance Webster Doyle (grades K–5)
BOOKS FOR ADULTS
And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence by James Garbarino, PhD, and Ellen Delara, PhD
Anti-Bullying Handbook by Keith Sullivan
Bullies: From the Playground to the Boardroom by Jane Middleton Mose
Bullies, Targets & Witnesses: Helping Children Break the Pain Chain by SuEllen Fried, ADTR, and Paula Fried, PhD
Bullies & Victims: Helping Your Child Through the Schoolyard Battlefield by SuEllen Fried, ADTR, and Paula Fried, PhD
Bully Busters by Dawn Newman, Arthur Hine, and Christi Bartolomucci
Bully Free Classroom by Allan Beane, PhD
The Bully, The Bullied & the Bystander: From Preschool to High School, How Parents & Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence by Barbara Coloroso
Bullying at School by Dan Olweus
The Bullying Prevention Handbook by John Hoover and Ronald Oliver
The Equip Program: Teaching Youth to Think and Act Responsibly Through Peer-Helping Approach by John C. Gibbs, Granville Bid Potter, and Arnold P. Goldstein
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
No More Bullies: For Those Who Wound or Are Wounded by Frank Peretti
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons
Please Stop Laughing at Me by Jodee Blanco